The kid sitting alone in the cafeteria

The biggest threat facing middle-age men isn’t smoking or obesity. It’s loneliness..

Billy Baker at The Boston Globe writes about how middle-aged men just let their friendships lapse:

“Since my wife and I have written about loneliness and social isolation, we see a fair number of people for whom this is a big problem,” [says Dr. Richard S. Schwartz, a Cambridge psychiatrist, who co-authored “The Lonely American: Drifting Apart in the Twenty-First Century” with his wife, Dr. Jacqueline Olds]. “Often they don’t come saying they’re lonely… Admitting you’re lonely feels very much like admitting you’re a loser. Psychiatry has worked hard to de-stigmatize things like depression, and to a large part it has been successful. People are comfortable saying they’re depressed. But they’re not comfortable saying they’re lonely, because you’re the kid sitting alone in the cafeteria.”

A “guy date” sounds absolutely excruciating.