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Great advice from Heather Havrilesky to a woman who gets obsessive crushes about unattainable men.

Then about halfway through I realized abruptly that Heather’s advice is relevant to more than just people in that woman’s particular situation. Heather isn’t just talking about romantic crushes. She’s talking about fantasizing about a better life and living in that fantasy world, rather than appreciating what you have and working to make your life better.

Heather gives great advice on her correspondent’s major problem. But she neglects a relatively minor point: The correspondent’s roommate needs to chill on the PDAs in the living room. Nobody wants to sit in the same room as that.

Ask Polly: Why Do I Always Want Unavailable Men? – Heather Havrilesky, New York Magazine